Creative Corner #3: No Music Mondays

"Creativity is God's gift to us. Using our creativity is our gift back to God."

- Julia Cameron (from her book, The Artist's Way)

Ever since I was a little girl, people all around me have told me that I'm creative. 

I'll admit...I love it. 

I love to be able to dream up unique ideas or stories, or even use my creativity in my wardrobe design. Heck, by the age of 10, I think I had started about five different "businesses" i.e., trying to sell my crap that I had created to my poor unsuspecting parents & grandparents...I mean, who really wants 10 little multi-colored dolls made out of yarn anyways? But often as we transition from a childhood dream world to a working reality, we tend to loosen the grip of our creative side.

I have to say I'm incredibly blessed to work in a place that encourages creativity constantly.  But i've found recently that when I'm not "exercising" my creative muscle regularly, it's increasingly more difficult to be "creative on cue" when I need to come up with an idea for a specific project.  After thinking it through and evaluating my regular routine, i've come to the conclusion that I don't carve out enough time to just intentionally think, be creative or simply dream.

Thus the purpose for "No Music Mondays!"

I love music. Or, maybe I should say I LOOOOVE music. I have it on all the time, and if I don't, I can often be found dancing or singing along to whatever song is in my head (even though no one else can hear it). 

It's a disease, I know.

It's also a known fact that at any given time, if you pull up next to me at a red light, the odds of you catching a glimpse of my latest song & dance performance are quite good...and probably rather amusing.

But as much as I love to rock it out in my car, I've realized that the hour+ that I spend in the car each way to work is a great time for me to squeeze in some intentional creative thinking space. So from here on out, every Monday will be considered No Music Monday. I will purposely not listen to my radio AT ALL any time I'm in the car, every single Monday. I can't even turn on the radio to hear the traffic report. Nothing. Nada. Zilch.

And you know what's crazy? I've already seen God use that time effectively.

My 2nd week in to this routine, I found myself almost running off the road trying to furiously jot down the ideas in my head that were coming faster than I could write! All related to a vision for something that I feel God has been slowly but surely stirring in my heart for some time now.  Wouldn't you know it, I carve out a little time to be silent and BAM...it was like the vision was just exploding in my brain!  (that's all I'm going to say about it for now, but stay tuned...something big is around the corner!)

So what do you do to keep your creative thinking juices flowing?

Might I recommend a little bit of regular intentional silence? It just might be music to your ears...

Jamie

A Million Miles in a Thousand Years: A Review

There’s a reason that we’re all drawn to a good book or movie…we’re captivated by the story.

We get swept away amidst the twists and turns of the plot; wondering if the main character will come out victorious, all along knowing that it will likely resolve happily after 2 hours or 250 pages. We walk away envisioning our own life following a similar suit…full of adventure, excitement, maybe even romance. But then somewhere along the road between disappointment and heartache, we often find ourselves trapped in a life of mediocrity.

And that’s precisely where Donald Miller found himself at the beginning of this book…

But through the process of “editing” his own life while adapting his bestselling memoir into a screenplay, Miller’s eyes are opened to the idea that we have the capability to create a better story for ourselves simply by choosing to engage in a life that's both meaningful and memorable.

A Million Miles in a Thousand Years paints the picture of a bland story gone bold. The way Miller walks you through the editing process of his life and his quest to make his ‘story’ one worth reading had me doing just that: wanting to keep reading to see what happens next. This book is full of clever humor and insight that could inspire anyone to want to go out and create a better story for themselves…one that’s a real page turner.

Click here to buy the book and see for yourself!

And one to grow on...

"Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty."  ~Henry Ford

So, today I turn another year....umm....wiser (yeah, we'll go with that, I hate the word 'old'), and I have to say that I am so grateful that I am nowhere near where I had actually planned for my life at this age. God's plans have been so much cooler than I ever could have imagined. I won't say they've been easier by any means, but an amazing journey and learning process none the less. 

If there's one thing i've learned over the years, it's that we should never stop learning (no pun intended). We must constantly keep our eyes and ears open to what God is teaching us - through our friends, our surroundings, and our circumstances.

So today, instead of gifts for me, I come bearing gifts for you! In a fond farewell to my 28th year (Dear 28, you've been a heck of a challenge, but oh so good to me), I give you 28 things I've learned or words of wisdom i've picked up throughout the year:

1. All of my life, in every season, you are still God, I have a reason to sing, I have a reason to worship. 

2. Moving home at 28 can be more of a challenge than living on my own.

3. It IS possible to sleep on a 16 hour flight...all you need is a tray table, a neck pillow & dramamine!

4. We all need people in our lives to point out our "blind spots"

5. It's a small world after all

6. I want to pursue Gods heart with all of my heart.

7. God loves you as you are and not as you should be, because you'll never be as you should be. 

8. It is still socially acceptable to make music videos with your girlfriends in your late 20s. Ok maybe not, but my friends don't judge me for it.

9. God can restore friendships, no matter the distance or how much time has passed. 

10. True self awareness: the good, the bad & the ugly is necessary for authentic growth. It can be a painful, yet beautiful process at the same time.

11. There's no bad mood a motown playlist can't fix.

12. It's never too late to relive your childhood...even if it means shelling out some dough to see NKOTB

13. A red bull a day keeps the drowsiness away.

14. God's movement in my life is proof that I dream way too small for myself. 

15.  It's never too late to improve yourself.

16. Getting braces at 28 was one of the best decisions I ever made.

17. God is most glorified when we are most satisfied in him.

18. Faith is a verb. What are you doing right now that requires faith?

19. Trust God to the point that you believe what he says over how you feel.

20. The condition of my heart is critical to the effectiveness of my ministry. Internal health drives external impact.

21. People who cut me off in traffic, then look at me like its my fault bring out some nasty anger in me. I need to work on this. Jesus loves bad drivers too...

22. On my best day I'm just as needy of God as my worst day.

23. No one can know God who does not first know himself.

24. Love God, love others.

25. Love is to reveal the beauty of another person to themselves.

26. Everyone needs someone in their life who can ask you the hard questions about ourselves... and we need to answer them.

27. I've come a long way baby.

28. I've still got a long way to go...

and one to grow on...

29. It IS possible to write an entire blog post while sitting at red lights on the way to work. (Exhibit A)

“The road of life twists and turns and no two directions are ever the same. Yet our lessons come from the journey, not the destination.” -Don Williams Jr.

Grateful for another year to be alive,

Jamie

Talkin' bout my generation...

In a time where philanthropy is the new black, are we still just a generation looking for another great resume builder?

As we worshipped in church this morning, we sang a song that I know by heart...one we sing all the time. But today, God totally used the words of this song to break my heart for my generation in a way He never has before, and He gave me a whole new awareness of the magnitude of how culture can affect our faith. As I began to sing these lyrics:

I see a generation, rising up to take their place

with selfless faith,

with selfless faith...

I couldn't help but think, that's so not true. As a whole, we are completely a selfish generation.

If you think about it, us "Generation X'ers" have been raised in the most self-gratifying culture ever.  Everything you could ever want, you can have it personalized, customized and instantly at your fingertips...

You can have a car made in the factory with your exact specifications.

You can custom build a home to fit your family's personal style & needs.

Anything you could think of can be monogrammed or branded with your name on it.

Heck, even Burger King does it "your way, right away"

With just about every company and/or product you can think of vying for our attention with their ability to personally tailor to our every wish, it's no surprise that this line of thinking would carry over into our faith. Often times I think we put expectations on God to fulfill our every desire, just because He can...and just because that's the way we want it. And i've seen it happen over and over where people try to pick and choose only those parts of the bible they want to believe that don't interfere with their current actions or lifestyle...as if God were our own personal vending machine.

I'll be the first to admit...if I look back on my journey with God, I would have to say so far, most of the times in my life when i've sought after God the hardest or put the most trust in Him were not in situations when I was focusing on someone else...it was mainly when I was struggling with something, or when I needed something from Him.  This reminded me of a quote that I always keep nearby:

"Do I chase the blessings of God more than the presence? I don't want God to simply be a new vehicle for the things I want. I want God to be what I want."

I know that I don't want to be the kind of person who only goes to God for what I want...nor do I want to be the kind of person that only focuses on me, me, me...how can I grow, what can I achieve. And I don't want to be part of a generation that is known for that either. So what do we do? How do we break the cycle? 

I'm not going to lie...the weight of this overwhelms me. But Ghandi says that we should "be the change we want to see in the world." So for today, i'll start with me. 

Break my heart for what breaks yours

Everything I am for Your kingdom's cause

Jamie

I bless the rains down in Africa...

I thought the song title was fitting, because it has rained almost non-stop since our arrival…but that has not dampened our spirits at all!! We are SO grateful to be here! I have no idea how to describe all that has happened already over the 3 short days that we have been here, and adequately paint a picture for the amazing experience we have had so far! 

It has been so neat to see how well our group has really gelled as a team, and how easily we have bonded with the people of Southpoint Church.  The excitement and the passion that the people here have for Jesus and for loving others is contagious…and we are so humbled to be so welcomed by their hospitality. We feel like we’ve been treated like royalty here, when we are the ones who came to serve them. Truly some of the most amazing servant’s hearts I’ve ever encountered. And I am so proud of all of our students for the way they have been stepping up and doing whatever is necessary to help – whether it be setting up for the Sunday services, helping clean out the old building which will become the new Inside Out environment, or just engaging with the other leaders and students of Cape Town that we are here to serve. God’s hand has been so evident in bringing our team together with each of our unique skills & gifts to accomplish all we have to do here…it’s so cool to see Him at work!

A couple of fun facts so far…

After Sunday services yesterday, the church threw a traditional South African Braai (which I’ve been informed is like an American BBQ, but better…I think I might have to agree on this one!). We had SO much fun playing games, hanging out and eating South African BBQ with everyone…such a great night of connecting.

Today, we spent all day preparing for the camp that we’ll be helping with tomorrow and Wednesday for all of the Southpoint students.  We’ll be checking out of our hotel and going to camp a couple hours away to hang out with and pour into the lives of about 50 South African students…we can’t wait! After a long day of preparations, we took a break and went to this really cool restaurant in town called Moyo…where we had “all you can eat” African cuisine…basically every kind of meat or ‘game’ you could think of.  They came around and gave us all tribal paintings on our faces, and some of us were even brave enough to get up on stage and do some traditional African dancing (what….me? Dancing on stage in Africa…? Shocker, I know.) ;) We had SO much fun experiencing the African culture!

I’m including a few pics that I have so far…we won’t have internet access while we’re at camp, so we’ll catch back up with you all on Wednesday night!

Oh, and be sure to check out another update from one of our students on our team blog:

http://capetownhighschooltrip.blogspot.com/

Beautiful view on our drive to dinner tonight:

Our crazy students up in a tree...

Me and 2 of my Inside Out students, Molly & Evan...love these girls!

Yes, I found Red Bull...yes, I stocked up. :)

Setting up for Sunday service at Southpoint Church...

Some of the traditional African music at dinner....

Me getting my face painted all "African Tribal Style" :)

Some of the team with their faces painted...

Cheers!

Jamie

We made it to South Africa!

Hey everyone! We made it!

I've posted a blog on our team's blog...so be sure to check out our progress here:
http://capetownhighschooltrip.blogspot.com/

More updates soon!
Jamie

Where you send us, God we will go...

"Where You send us
God, we will go
You're the answer
We want the world to know

We will trust You
When You call our name
Where You lead us
We'll follow all the way..."
-Chris Tomlin

It's so crazy to think that this time last year, I was returning from my first planning trip to Australia for Passion Sydney. I would have never guessed that a year later I would be preparing for a journey to South Africa...but I am so thankful for the Lord's hand on my path - He has a far better plan than I could have ever dreamed for myself! I am so excited to be able to take a group of our high school students with us to invest in and learn from the South Africa students of our partner church in Cape Town!

As i'm trying to prepare my heart for the task we have at hand, i'm reminded just how many distractions there are here that are competing for my time and attention: work, friends, family, social life, etc. It's so hard to "un-plug" from life when life stops for no one. But trips like these are great reminders that sometimes we just need to pause, detach ourselves from all of the media outlets that keep our minds on mental schizophrenia, and remember that we don't need a thriving relationship with Facebook/Twitter/YouTube/Google/iPhone...we need a relationship with our heavenly father and with His people..whether they be next door, or 10,000 miles away.

I hope that you'll track with us as we go on this adventure of a lifetime. I'll try to blog from here as much as possible, but we'll mostly be blogging from our team page: http://capetownhighschooltrip.blogspot.com/.

We would love your prayers for a safe, successful and life changing experience!

Our team:


"Look at the nations and watch- and be utterly amazed. For I am going to do something in your days that you would not believe, even if you were told." Habakkuk 1:5

How awesome is the Lord most high!!

Jamie

Crooked little smile...

"Crooked little smile on her face,
tells a tale of grace
that's all her own..."
- Norah Jones

So, i've made some more changes in my life, can you tell...


What? You don't see anything different?

Good.

That's the point!

I'll give you a hint...



Yep. For the first time in my life, I just got braces.

I bet you're thinking - Wait...what? But I don't see them! That's because you're not supposed to! The kind I got are these amazing things called "Lingual Braces"...they go behind your teeth...so that grown women like me don't wind up looking like they have a train wreck on their face when they're trying to speak in front of a crowd, or even (gasp) go on a date.

Here's a view of what they look like from the inside:


Now, I know what you're thinking...what kind of 28 year old single genius waits until the END of her 1 year dating fast to move home (temporarily) and get braces? Yeah, pardon me while I wait for the boys to line up at the door...my parents door. (enter crickets chirping, stage left) Ahem.

If you know me well enough, you know that I am laughing at myself and my impeccable timing. If you don't know me well enough, well...you just might be getting ready to send me your counselor's number on speed dial. But don't worry...I have enough self-confidence to be able to look at the situation and laugh at the irony. It's not the first time in my life that i've done something completely backwards....and it's likely it won't be the last.

But here's the real irony - the way in which this external transformation is really parallel to the transformation my heart has already experienced internally over the past few years...

I mean sure, i'm making some physical improvements a little late in the game...but better late than never right? And yeah, they're not exactly attractive - but neither is digging through the muck of our brokenness. Sure, both journeys are painful (let me tell ya, you haven't felt pain until you feel what it's like to try and move teeth that have been in the same place for the last 28 years...goodbye crunchy foods, hello mashed potatoes!), but the end result of both is a newer, improved, more beautiful version of yourself...one on the inside, one out.

Kinda cool, huh?


Jamie

Creative Corner #2: Cheesy Music Video Time!

Ok, so this episode of Creative Corner is a little different...but I had to give a shout out to all my Inside Out students!

We were given the challenge to come up with our own music video by picking from a list of about 15 songs. So we got a little creative and decided to do a different version of a classic song from 2006...

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Jamie & Maya's Group - Bad Day from Jamie Waddy on Vimeo.

Yes, that dancing skunk at the end is my co-leader. Yes, I have the most awesome junior girls ever. Yes, you wish you could be in our next video. We've been known to have guest appearances from time to time, so if you play your cards right, you might just score an audition. ;)

Jamie

I'm Movin' On...

Tonight is my last night living in Dunwoody...at least for a while. Tomorrow I pack up the last few belongings left in the apartment and take up residence in Acworth again - at a place that I haven't lived in over 9 years...

Home.

Yes, when I say home I mean home...as in, with the parental units. Yes, I know that I am 28 and moving home. Yes, I know this goes against any and/or all socially acceptable endeavors. Yes, I know my commute will go from a 10 minute blip to a 1 hour excursion...and I don't care. If swallowing my pride and putting a few extra miles on my car means that I can reach my goal of entering my 30's in a year and a half debt free, then I will gladly suck it up for the next 6-8 months...it's something I probably should have done a long time ago.

When I first entertained the idea of possibly moving home for a few months to save money, every ounce of my being protested. Don't get me wrong, I love my parents, but it was like something in me was saying that I would have to give up some of my "freedom" by living under their roof again. But the irony is in the fact that if i'm still a slave to the debtor, am I really free to begin with?

I'm sad to leave this fabulous area that i've come to love over the past 3 years, and the wonderful friends and community that have surrounded me, but I think the weirdest thing is that I feel a little bit like i'm going to be a stranger in my own home. Maybe it's because I am not the same girl who left there 9 years ago. So much has changed and I feel like I have learned and grown more in these past 9 years than I did in the 20 before that.

It's funny how life works that way sometimes...it's all part of the journey.

Jamie

All my single ladies...

I can't help myself....

Goodness, this is why I love JT - he's stinkin' hilarious.

Happy Valentine's Day to all my single ladies - this one's for you!

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Jamie

Blogspot-light: Perry Noble

Folks, it's time for the first ever Jamie's Blogspot-light...where I find other peoples words of wisdom or blogs that are worth sharing, and pass their bloggy goodness onto you!

First up, Perry Noble. Perry is the pastor of NewSpring Church, and an amazing communicator.  I had the privilege of hearing some of his wisdom and insight at last year's Catalyst conference, and he did not disappoint. Even through his humorous wit, he found some great ways to drive home some hard points. Enough said, i'll let his words do the talking...

The following post is straight from his blog - both posts are about relationships. Five things that single dudes and single girls should know. If you're single, you should definitely read this whole thing, I don't care how long it is - it's good stuff!  

Enjoy!

Five Things A Single Dude NEEDS To Know… (by Perry Noble)

OK guys…here we go…I’ve been wanting to do this one for a long time.  Please keep in mind that I made TONS of mistakes as a single dude…so these lessons are NOT all as a result of my success stories.  BUT…I did manage to do some things right…and I have a red hot wife to prove it.  (Thank You Jesus!!!)

#1 - If You Are Interested In A Girl…YOU Need To Talk To HER.  

The Bible says in Proverbs 18:22 that he who FINDS a wife finds what is good (AMEN!)  Men…it is up to you to FIND a wife…that means YOU are to be the one to initiate things…if you want to be the leader IN the relationship then you should take steps to be the leader at the beginning of the relationship!

This means, if you are interested in a girl…you talk to her!!!  You don’t call HER friends and ask them to drop hints for you…unless you are a pathetic wimp.  You don’t get YOUR friends to drop hints to her friends.  BE A MAN!  If you want to ask her out…ASK HER OUT!  Trust me…her friends don’t want to talk to you about it anymore…and if you keep bothering them they are going to tell HER to stay away from you!

I did this right…when I finally decided that I was interested in Lucretia I told a couple of buddies so they could pray for me…and then I had a conversation with her and was completely honest and transparent about the way that I felt.  She said she would “pray about it” and that she was “not saying no,” which was NOT very encouraging.  BUT…I found out later that she always told her friends that if a guy was interested in her then she expected him to talk to her…NOT anyone else.

#2 - When You Talk With Her–BE HONEST & DON’T PLAY GAMES!!!  

One of a man’s top fears is rejection.  SO…in order to stay away from this pain and hurt he will not come out and say he is interested in a girl…he won’t say, “I would like to take you out for dinner.”  Nope–he plays games…drops hints…all the while hoping that the young lady will pick up on his pathetic attempts to “woo her” and then begin to pursue him.

Dude–stop it, right now!!!  If you are interested in a young lady–tell her.  Just come out and say it.  If you are not sure…but you think you would like to get to know her better…then tell her, “Hey, I would like to get to know you a little better…can we have some supper?”

DO NOT SAY, “Hey…uh…well…maybe, you know, if you like food…uh, do you like food,” hoping that she will say, “Yes, take me to get some.”

Ladies want a man that can be honest…and if you can’t be honest with her from the beginning then how in the world will you ever convince her to trust you in the future?

One more thing…another reason that dude play games is so that they can fuel their pathetically weak male ego…they string girls along…they are not interested–but do want someone to make out with on the weekends.  To be honest–I want to punch guys like this in the nose.  (And if you are ANY sort of man…and you have a daughter…and a dude does that to her…you want to punch him as well–no matter “how godly” you are!!!)  :-)

#3 - On The Date–Be Creative

Ladies–please…if a guy ever takes you to supper and then a movie ON THE FIRST DATE…DROP HIM like a bad habit.  Trust me…this relationship has started off on the wrong foot…and here is why…

When you go to a movie on the first date you learn NOTHING about one another…there is NO interaction, no conversation…and so when you get home one person will lie to the other one and say they had a nice time…when they really didn’t because time and money were spent on getting to know all about the lives of the fictional character on the screen.

Guys–think enough about her to PLAN the date…and when you PLAN…PLAN it well!  (This is where you CAN get advice from her friends.)  When you pick her up–don’t ask her where she would like to go eat…HAVE IT PLANNED.  (There should be a conversation somewhere about particular restaurants that are liked and are not liked.)

I know one dude that took a young lady to eat and then they went to Wal Mart where he said, “Let’s get a buggy–go through and pick out five things that we identify with…and then meet back here and write them down…and then go somewhere and talk about them.”  DING DING DING–we have a WINNER!!!

(Note:  Movies are NOT a bad date idea…they are just a bad first or second date idea!!!)

#4 - On The Date–Be A Gentleman

Dude–you have GOT to treat her like a lady.   Walk her to her car door and open it for her.  I have had guys argue with me & say, “My dad doesn’t open the door for my mom.”  I always reply, “Well…maybe your dad is an insensitive jerk!”  Just a thought.

(Ladies…if he does not open the door…just stand outside of his car–he will get the hint.  If he doesn’t find you valuable enough to open the door for you…trust me, it’s going to go downhill.)

Guys–a lady wants to feel special…like someone really wants to take care of her…and trust me, the little things matter…so open her car door.

Oh yeah, one more thing…when you come to her house to pick her up…cut your car off, walk up to the door, and ask for her like a man.  If you pull up in her driveway and call her from your cell phone–you are a loser.  If you pull up in her driveway and honk your car horn…you are REALLY a loser.

(A dude came to pick up my sister once a blew the horn…she got up to leave & my dad told her to sit down.  The guy outside then began to hold down on the horn…my dad, who had drank a beer or twelve, got up, walked outside, opened his car door and hit him in the nose, knocking him across the car.  He said he was going to go home and tell his father…to which my father proceeded to invite him to do so, telling him that he would be glad to give his father the same treatment.  The dude left & came back an hour later cleaned up and apologized for the way he had treated my sister.)  I LOVE TELLING THAT STORY!!!  :-)

#5 - If She Says “NO,” That Means NO!  

Guys–if you ask a girl out on a date & she tell you no–back off…stay away…you can be her friend but do NOT begin to try to put pressure on her…this freaks her out.

I have had so many single dudes tell me, “But Perry, you talk about how you pursued Lucretia for nearly two years before she even went out with you.”

YEP–that is true…but I was her friend and not a freaky stalker.  During my two year friendship with Lucretia we maybe had five conversations about the possibility of us dating one day…and she NEVER told me NO or to never bring the conversation up again.  We were friends…we hung out…with NO strings attached.  She never told me to back off.

If a young lady tells you no and you continue to pursue–dude–you are NOT being romantic…you are being stupid.  Let it GO!!!

That’s about it for now–just curious–what are some things a single lady needs to know?  (I will post about this–but remember–this Sunday is the message for the women at NewSpring…the men came out in full force…ladies…don’t miss this!!!)

Four Things A Single Girl Should Know (by Perry Noble)

Last year I did a post entitled “Five Things A Single Dude Needs To Know” that I felt like really challenged guys and gals…at least the e-mails proved that to be true. AND…one of the questions I received for several week after was, “What about the girls, when are you going to challenge them?” Well–after about eleven months here goes…

#1 - Girls Chase Boys, Women Wait To Be Pursued.

Ladies, please believe me when I say that if you are pursuable then a godly man will take notice at just the right time…wait. If you have to pursue a guy and initiate all of the conversations and planning then the dude is not ready to lead…which would automatically disqualify him biblically from being your husband.

Ladies–admit it–the desire of your heart is to know that someone thinks you are lovely enough to pursue…and when a guy makes an effort to win your heart–there’s just something about that that makes you feel special.

God created you–designed you…and it wasn’t so you can throw yourself at a guy, hoping that he notices. Fall in love with Jesus and a godly guy will notice, I promise.

(If you are whining right now saying, “But I am in love with Jesus and no one is noticing” then you need to stop and listen to yourself…trust me, a dude doesn’t want to pursue a woman who whines!)

#2 - Set High Expectations

This sort of goes along with the first thing…but ladies–let me say this clearly–Ephesians 3:20 says that God is able to do immeasurably more than all we can ask or imagine, which means that you should not look at a guy and say, “I can fix him up and he might work.” As I often say, you are NOT the Holy Spirit–”fixing people” is the job of Jesus…not you!

When you get married you need to be willing to say, “I will love this person AS IS for the rest of my life, if NOTHING changes I will love them!” BECAUSE, when you get married, change is NOT a guarantee…so don’t listen to promises of change if evidence is not shown beforehand.

I am SICK and TIRED of godly Christian young ladies settling because of insecurities in their lives OR because their friends are getting married and they think that they are going to be 28 and single–which would be the end of the world!!! I have seen girls get here and panic–and then date and marry some dude, only to be in divorce court in less than five years–which brings about another set of issues altogether!

Ladies–remember–Ephesians 3:20! Is he more than you could ever ask for or imagine?

#3 - Don’t Over Analyze!

Girls are HORRIBLE as this…a guy will ask them out and they will think the following…

• “He just asked me out–what does he mean by going “out?”
• “If I go out this once then does that mean we are dating?”
• “What if I don’t like going out with him–and he asks me out again?”
• “Is he thinking marriage? Oh my–if we had kids they just wouldn’t be cute!”
• “He hasn’t called me in a day, he hates me, did I have broccoli in my teeth?”

I could literally go on and on…but ladies, if a guy ask you out and you want to go–then go, and don’t spend the 72 hours before and after trying to analyze things that probably will never happen. Seriously, God probably hasn’t even invented some of the problems that ladies get stressed out about–CHILL!

#4 - Be Honest!

If I have one pet peeve with girls…it’s this–they will go out with a guy, say they had a great time…he will ask can they go out again and she says, “Call me.”

So he calls…and calls…and calls! The girl never answers when she sees its him on caller ID, she thinks if she ignores him then he may just go away. BUT, because he’s a guy and probably a little clueless–he keeps calling.

Finally they accidentally run into each other somewhere…I say “accidentally” because she had NO INTENTIONS of ever speaking to him again. He says, “I’ve been trying to call you,” and she replies, “Really…yeah, uh, I’ve been…uh…you know…busy.”

He says, “That’s cool–I understand…so, what are you doing tomorrow night?”

“Tomorrow night? Uh…well…uh…I have plans.” (This is always the safest answer, right?)

“Plans–well what about the night after that…”

This conversation goes on and on with the girl making some obscure reference to having to check her schedule and for him to call her–and the game goes on.

Ladies–please–be honest. If you like the guy and want to go back out–and he asks you–then say yes. Don’t play games…say yes and go. BUT…if you have no intentions of ever going back out with him again…then please, tell him because he is probably driving his friends crazy!!!

Joy Comes in the Morning

I'm not going to lie...hitting "publish post" on my last blog entry scared the crap out of me.

I was terrified to put some of those words in print - partially because I knew how vulnerable it would make me feel, and partially because until now I have only shared those feelings with my inner-circle of close friends. It kinda feels good just to have it out there...to be honest and admit that I have hard days, even as a "professional Christian" as some call those of us who work in ministry. 

Yes, I have days where I doubt God. 

Days where I get mad at him. 

Days where i'm sad or hurt or lonely. 

And i'm glad that I do, because that makes me know that he loves me enough to test me...to allow some hurt in my life that will ultimately just draw me even closer to him. As Todd Nighswonger put it ever so perfectly, "do you believe that if God sacrificed his own son on your behalf, that he will go all the way - do anything it takes - to make you who you need to be...even if it means pain?" Yes I do believe this, but it wasn't until I experienced this kind of deep pain 7 years ago that I fully began to understand the impact it could have on the course of my life and on my ability and need to lean fully on him. 

But here's the good news..."weeping may remain for a night, but rejoicing comes in the morning." -Psalm 30:5.  I will spend my painful moments cradled in the arms of my Father, earnestly listening to what He wants to tell me in those tender times, and I will rejoice in the morning at the beauty He has created out of that pain. 

So now I turn the question to you...when have you experienced a time of hurt transform into a time of rejoicing?

Not my finest hour

I came home from small group tonight and did what any other self-respecting 28 year old woman would do...

I pitched a fit in front of my dad (and by dad, I mean the heavenly one).

No, I didn't lay on the ground kicking and screaming, but don't think that I didn't contemplate it. First, I had it out with him in the car on the way home-I mean, almost to the point of yelling. I turned the radio up as loud as my ears would tolerate, hoping that it would drown out my thoughts....but no luck.  When I got home, I threw the car into park so hard I thought I might have broken the gear shift. I stomped up the stairs to my apartment, slammed the door, proceeded into my room where I aggressively chunked my purse and phone across the bed and began tearing off my coat. Unfortunately none of this really did anything to make me feel better. Well, maybe just a little...

But the frustrating part is, I don't know who I am more irritated at - myself, or God.

For the past year or so, I have been on this incredibly humbling and sometimes just downright laborious journey of self-awareness with God.  I've learned more about myself in the past year than I have in the last 5 years combined. And for that, i'm very grateful.  Sometimes it's beautiful, but sometimes it's just downright gross. I've been forced to dig back into pain from my past that has brought new pain and frustrations to the surface, but also freedom and release. With that process comes a wave of emotions. I've cried more in the past 2 months than I have in the past 3 years combined. I feel like for the last year i've been on a constant emotional roller coaster.  If I were to be completely honest, here are some of the thoughts that have, at some point in recent months, run through my head:

I'm mad at myself for letting little things distract me and take me way off course

I'm frustrated with God for not fulfilling some of the desires of my heart already

I'm disappointed that i've let myself fall into the same trap multiple times

I'm tired of being emotionally drained

I'm humbled at the fact that God is still using me amidst this season of refinement

I'm ready to be pursued

I'm afraid i'm not good enough

I'm overwhelmed with the thought of how much I still have to learn

I'm thankful that God loves me in spite of all of these thoughts...

I don't share these thoughts because I need encouragement or affirmation. I share them because it's where I am. I'm in a season of refinement...and in that season is some ugliness.

But I welcome it. 

Every day isn't like this. There are many, many days where I laugh constantly and I can't stop thanking God for all the blessings he has bestowed on an undeserving sinner like me. Blessings which include those few and far between ugly days where my heart hurts so much I can hardly stand it. Because I know that in pain, there is redemption. In hurt, there is hope. And in brokenness, there is beauty.

Creative Corner #1: Girls Night Out at the Movies!

Welcome to the first installment of Creative Corner! This is where I share with you creative ideas i've come up with (or sometimes snagged from other creative geniuses) and show you the design in action! Because my strong suit is typically event planning - I have a feeling a lot of my creative corners will revolve around events. The first CC is no exception!

This past weekend, I got together with 20 of my favorite gal pals for one of our infamous Girls Night Out events! With everyone's budgets a little tighter this year, we decided to do something that wouldn't break the bank - movie night, with a sweet twist! Because we're girls who love a good chick flick (and let's be honest here, our eyes all get a little twinkle in them when we get to see a woman in a Vera Wang wedding gown), we decided to check out Bride Wars with Kate Hudson & Anne Hathaway.

We had a little fun re-creating the movie poster with two of our own recent brides:

But before we hit the theater, we gathered at my place for a little girl time and some pre-movie treats! If there's one thing I hate, it's spending a fortune on snacks at the movies. I refuse to give up that much of my hard earned money for something I could get for half the price elsewhere (and for something that's going to go straight to my hips anyways)!

So to make things fun, I created a "Candy Bar" (yes, pun intended) for all the girls to choose their own delectible sugary goodness in a pink (of course - we're girls) little "to-go" bag that we could take with us!

Here's some shots of the bar:

We had such a fun night just getting in some quality girl time and taking over the theater, that we decided to do it again next month... the movie of choice? He's Just Not That Into You.

Let's hear it for a night of estrogen!

Jamie

Under Construction

So…it’s a new year, and in case you can’t tell by the slight face lift that my blog just got, things are a changin’…can you handle it? That’s right boys and girls, there’s some new things coming your way here at good ole Sleepless In Atlanta, and some of them are not for the faint of heart. Ok, maybe they are, but with the dwindling economy I had to resort to my own marketing…I’m trying to entice you at my best angle. ;) Here are some new additions that are coming soon to SIL:

1. Creative Corner – I love to be creative. I thrive off of it. Believe it or not, people have actually told me I have a lot of creative ideas, and recent personality & leadership tests have confirmed. That’s right folks, you’ve got a genuine creativity nut on your hands here (well, at least the nut part is true), so why not share in the fun?! At least once a month, I’ll be posting some of my creative ideas from random arenas in my life and showing you how you too, can scratch that creative itch in many…..um…..creative ways. Look for these ideas under the “Creative Corner” category on the right side of my blog.
2. Jamie’s Favorite Things – hey if Oprah can share all her favorite new discoveries, I can too. Why not?! I love learning about new technologies, books, destinations, etc….if I’m exploring, I might as well pass along stuff that’s worth your while!
3. Blogspot-light – I read blogs….lots of them. It’s how I keep up with family, friends, and keep a pulse on lots of different things going on in the world. Sometimes I come across blog posts that are worthy of sharing, and that’s just what I’ll do. Be on the lookout for intriguing stories of interest periodically. Hey, it’s a blog eat blog world, somebody’s gotta dig in and find the good stuff.

And perhaps the most significant change you’re going to see on my blog has nothing to do with topics or technology or even global news. The biggest change I hope you will see in my posts will be a deeper dive into the trenches of my heart.

Over the past six or so years, I’ve really been learning what it looks like to be vulnerable, transparent and willing to share my finest moments as well as my not so finest moments. And until recently, I thought I had been doing a pretty good job at it. But thankfully, I have been blessed to have some amazingly wise people in my life who have helped hold a mirror up to my face to see some of the real depth that I’ve been hiding, and God has been revealing to me some amazing truths over the past 8 months.

You see, as a kid, I can remember working on a surprise or a project for my parents or sisters. Like the time I made something for my mom, or the time I wanted to surprise my folks and re-organize my room all by myself. I can remember mom poking her head in my door and me telling her to get out because I wasn’t finished yet…I wanted her to see the final product – not a work in progress. It didn’t even occur to me until now, that this trend had carried over into my spiritual life. I have had no problem over the past couple of years in sharing with anyone what I have learned through some of the trials God has brought me through – but I was sharing most of them from the “finished product” perspective. In other words, I would wait until I had essentially “come out” of a situation, had time to process and assess what it was that God was trying to teach me through that, and then share what I learned out of it. I think I was afraid for people to see me in the middle of my mess. Sure there are a couple of super close friends that saw me through the entire process, but to most of the known world, they were just getting the polished, ‘I’m wiser for having learned that’ aspect of me. And that’s not who I want to be.

As a wise friend told me, there is beauty in brokenness…with emphasis being on the word IN, not past the brokenness. Sure, God can certainly use our brokenness once we’ve come out of it, but think of how much he can use us while we’re right smack in the middle of it.

So that’s my goal..to be more real. To be more “raw,” so to speak. And to not let fear of judgment or appearing imperfect keep me from sharing the real depths of my heart…not only in my writing, but in my friendships as well.

I believe I’ve quoted Steven Furtick in my blog before for this line, but I’ll quote him again: “between the promise of God in your life and the payoff is a process.”

Welcome to my process.

Jamie